Anybody else not like dealing with polite people?

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Anybody else not like dealing with polite people?

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Shit weirds me out
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Like you ever deal with somebody who's just sooooo happy they can help you with something

I don't like that
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Love polite folks, anything less rubs me the wrong way
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Smile Now Cry Later wrote:Shit weirds me out
I don’t mind polite people if it’s genuine

not a fan of performative kindness

however I’ve learned being real and raw isn’t palatable for most and isn’t in good taste.

So usually I just stay quiet in most situations and let people unravel themselves
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Polite people are great because it automatically makes me polite and the conversation between us is nice. No matter where I am, I’m polite to people and if they’re polite to me, we become best friends in that moment.

You want people to be assholes all the time?


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I think there are levels

I think Dex is talking about real kindness vs fake kindness. For those who are energy inclined, fake politeness can come off as passive aggressive.

Especially in social situations. One of my biggest pet peeves is being in a social situation where I see someone smiling in someone’s face to win their affection and turn around when they are gone and make a slick comment about them. Shit like that makes it sooo hard to trust people sometimes. Oh but they were so polite :evil:

Real kindness is based on respect.

People can have the best intentions - genuinely wanting people around them to feel good. But what happens in effect is that people feel as if they aren’t permitted to be themselves. Can’t have a shitty day without someone nagging at them trying to cheer them up.

This form of kindness understands the object of kindness should be other people, but misunderstands the goal of kindness. It's not to make people feel great all the time - it's to make people feel validated, seen and respected.

Making people feel validated, seen, and respected is my version of politeness.
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In my journey of growing im learning to be kind to receive kindness

But I was one of those people who would look at a man weird and not say thank you if they held a door open for me

That was a dumb way of living tbh

I’m still like this tho when I’m in one of my bitch ass mood swings tho

But I’m working on it


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there was this chick i used to work with that was always so happy and over polite that it came off as creepy. Almost like she was on some kind of pills that controlled her mood or something.

there was a running joke about her being a cyborg
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I like polite people

I dont like dealing with assholes. But i also learned diff cultures have diff ideas of what polite and asshole is and not to get offended easily

So i can get along with most people anyway.

I find in north america, arguments get serious real fast. Where as in my observation other cultures ive visited(which isnt that many) are better at disagreements without escalated them to thuper therious or violence

Like your run of the mill argument on the street with a stranger isnt as serious as quickly as it is in my experience in canada and the states
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nohbody wrote: Wed Nov 29, 2023 3:44 pm there was this chick i used to work with that was always so happy and over polite that it came off as creepy. Almost like she was on some kind of pills that controlled her mood or something.

there was a running joke about her being a cyborg
Went to school with a girl like this. Absolute kind cute sweetheart in public, but a menace at home with family. I was shocked when I went over to her house for a school project. Never seen someone so disrespectful to their parents or siblings before.

Overt politeness is a form of over compensation
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