Be honest

[Zyc]

There’s nothing that he’s done that I’ve consciously perceived as wrong.

It’s literally in our wiring, I don’t know what it is but I just can’t like him and I really want to. I tried striking up a convo and being friendly but it was a disaster because I could feel myself projecting a bad energy like it was super fake. He probably felt that too.

I understand this 100%

Some people have a bad energy, and sometimes you can feel your own energy being negative and have to take a step back and reset.


As to the OP, I’ve always wondered where people get the idea that they have haters unless the person is constantly saying or doing shit that shows their disdain for you. I couldn’t imagine giving people who don’t like me even a second thought, and very openly show my emotions so they know immediately.


As an aside, when people have to say they don’t pay attention to haters, that means they pay attention to haters. That statement always annoys me.


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[BULLY]

I do not give a single fraction of a fuck about anyone's opinion of me.


That doesn't mean I'm an asshole to others, Im just unbothered and confident in myself so nothing anyone else thinks or says moves me.

[Sir Bustalot]

Ive never noticed a hater

But if youre out there, go hate someone else

[cody]

Ive never noticed a hater

But if youre out there, go hate someone else

so in your years of life theres never been a moment where someone has directed negative energy towards you and you felt some type of way about it?

how is that humanly possible?

[cody]

I do not give a single fraction of a fuck about anyone's opinion of me.


That doesn't mean I'm an asshole to others, Im just unbothered and confident in myself so nothing anyone else thinks or says moves me.

how is it humanly possible to not be affected by negative energy? have you ever been affected by negativity ?

[cody]

I understand this 100%

Some people have a bad energy, and sometimes you can feel your own energy being negative and have to take a step back and reset.


As to the OP, I’ve always wondered where people get the idea that they have haters unless the person is constantly saying or doing shit that shows their disdain for you. I couldn’t imagine giving people who don’t like me even a second thought, and very openly show my emotions so they know immediately.


As an aside, when people have to say they don’t pay attention to haters, that means they pay attention to haters. That statement always annoys me.


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do negative comments affect you?

[Sir Bustalot]

so in your years of life theres never been a moment where someone has directed negative energy towards you and you felt some type of way about it?

how is that humanly possible?

Im not sure what i mean

When i think back on my life, i dont remember people actively hating me... they could have and i was just a naive idiot about it..

Ive def had people decide they dont like me....


I guess when i envisioned a hater i imagined someone actively trying to show the negative energy/hate for longer than a small single moment, or for it to count the hate has to be effectual to atleast a small degree)... and outside testosterone filled HS boys being dipshitty HS boys. Ive never had an "enemy" after me personally that i knew of

[cody]

Im not sure what i mean

When i think back on my life, i dont remember people actively hating me... they could have and i was just a naive idiot about it..

Ive def had people decide they dont like me....


I guess when i envisioned a hater i imagined someone actively trying to show the negative energy/hate for longer than a small single moment, or for it to count the hate has to be effectual to atleast a small degree)... and outside testosterone filled HS boys being dipshitty HS boys. Ive never had an "enemy" after me personally that i knew of

has a small single moment affected you enough to make you upset?

[Sir Bustalot]

has a small single moment affected you enough to make you upset?

I guess its just hard to envision a hater...

One example i can think of, my old best friend was going through some mental health issues based on his own physical health. One day out of the blue he phones me up and tells me he doesnt want to be my friend because of some shit hed been holding a grudge for 5ys about, and he just decided he didnt wanna know me anymore because of it. I accepted his verdict, did my best to apologize for the 5yr old issue i had no idea was bothering him for 5 yrs... and we havent spoken since other than me asking him a while later if he wanted to chill and talk about it... he said no..

Does that count as a hater?

[cody]

I guess its just hard to envision a hater...

One example i can think of, my old best friend was going through some mental health issues based on his own physical health. One day out of the blue he phones me up and tells me he doesnt want to be my friend because of some shit hed been holding a grudge for 5ys about, and he just decided he didnt wanna know me anymore because of it. I accepted his verdict, did my best to apologize for the 5yr old issue i had no idea was bothering him for 5 yrs... and we havent spoken since other than me asking him a while later if he wanted to chill and talk about it... he said no..

Does that count as a hater?

thats a hater. it has more layers though, it was probably a build up of scenarios throughout the years between you two that made him snap like that. no one 100% at fault, but i find in this case.. you guys had already grown apart slowly

he was probably not bringing up those small issues, in the name of keeping peace withtin the friendship, but i find those subtle animosities build up due to jealousy, self esteem issues etc. it hurts when your "best friends" or siblings can't be happy for you. but it's also like, how are you projecting your happiness to the world? are you making it look easy when it was extremely hard?

people admire vulnerability, on the flip side they use it against you

the human psyche is wild