Be honest

[cody]

Yes. That’s why I like to limit my actions or reactions to moments that deserve them, as well as my involvement in places/situations that may elicit an action. If people want to fight, I walk away; talk shit, I just ignore or agree and keep moving.


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true. i'm like this.

[Zyc]

i belive everything in life is connected. if you're absorbing without reaction, your subconscious is pouring it to another area where it could seem like something else, but its the deep "issues" you've been silencing. i don't know much, but i think that's how psychologists diagnose you. by dissecting each 'trauma response' specifically, and tying it into something else that has nothing to do with the response.

ie: if someone says they are completely unbothered by 'haters', on the outside they may seem like a free spirit, calm, laid back. but internally they are burning with animosity, pessimism, rigid boundaries which in turns prohibits people from getting close to them etc. just one scenario.

i would assume people whose psyche is considered "normal" (people who can make general genuine connection with humans, animals, all other living beings etc), all have Positive traits, and Negative traits. i assume some traits are biological, and some are learned due to circumstance.

I wouldn’t consider people trying to intimidate or belittle you as traumatic. the childhood, teenage, and adult trauma I actually went through are why I’m closed off to relationships, but it’s very hard to incite anger with me and I take words with a grain of salt.


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[Zyc]

Even silence is a response tbh

Agreed, but it’s the best response in tense situations because it’s the least likely reaction to escalate.


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[cody]

I wouldn’t consider people trying to intimidate or belittle you as traumatic. the childhood, teenage, and adult trauma I actually went through are why I’m closed off to relationships, but it’s very hard to incite anger with me and I take words with a grain of salt.


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This is untrue. Emotional abuse is almost worse than physical abuse. The two together - forget about it

[Primo Playmaker]

This is untrue. Emotional abuse is almost worse than physical abuse. The two together - forget about it

Yes.

So much yes.

[Sir Bustalot]

Im a beleiver in doing whats necessary i might not be good at it, but its what i consider during life.

For example zyclons story of the weirdo who wanted some trouble. Whats necessary in that situation? It definitely wasnt necessary to fight him. Or in an argument where someone turns hurtful and mean. Is it necessary to be hurtful and mean back? Thats kinda how i see things.

[cody]

Im a beleiver in doing whats necessary i might not be good at it, but its what i consider during life.

For example zyclons story of the weirdo who wanted some trouble. Whats necessary in that situation? It definitely wasnt necessary to fight him. Or in an argument where someone turns hurtful and mean. Is it necessary to be hurtful and mean back? Thats kinda how i see things.

this is facts, doing what is necessary given the scenario. but it goes back to absorption.

[Primo Playmaker]

Even silence is a response tbh

I can't even lie

I'd rather be punched than ignored

Having my anger met with silence is a knife in the stomach

[Sir Bustalot]

I can't even lie

I'd rather be punched than ignored

Having my anger met with silence is a knife in the stomach

As someone whos excellent at ignoring. And im not saying your case is the same, but to offer insight on why ill choose to ignore may give you some understanding on why some may do it.

If im in a discussuion, an argument, over something i or you have done. And you take it to the level of absurdity with being stubborn in thought, mean and hurtfull in your arguments, and just want to insult me, in my head i say "oh this person is too bullheaded right now, too angry and just wants to belittle me, i see now this will get nowhere" and shut the convo down and leave. And ill sit through a bit of it because maybe you just need a moment to get your anger out and hear me out,

we can come back to it when youre willing to be level headed....but im just not into those convos

Ive been accused of avoiding problems, but i dont care. I dont have time to listen to angry insults and waste my time on a verbal fight of whos more stubborn or mean. I want to understand your perspective but i cant follow if its all hatred and anger. Just tell me the problem in the least amount of insults and hatred. We can deal with it much quicker that way

[Zyc]

This is untrue. Emotional abuse is almost worse than physical abuse. The two together - forget about it

I’m speaking about people who you don’t know, aka haters. If you have people you’re around regularly who try to bring you down, why are they still in your life? Strangers have zero effect on my day to day with their words and actions.

I agree with verbal/mental abuse being on par or worse than physical when it’s people you love, look up to, etc.


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